Do you ever have seasons of your life you just thoroughly enjoy? This is one of mine, scratch that, my life is one of those seasons as of late.
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE learning, did I tell you I loved learning? It lights me up, it fills my soul. I am so curious and interested in how the world works, how nature works, how the universe works, human minds, animals and how God works. I just want to know it ALL! For those of you that have had the pleasure of teaching me in any way shape or form, you know I question it all.
My soul came to this earth already programmed with the rejection of the notion this is just how things are, or acceptance of something because this is how we have always believed. Tradition hasn’t ever really been my jam. I never understood it, we are doing something because this is how the generation before us did it? What if someone made this up literally for their personal convenience now we are all doing it and don’t know why? Here is a beautiful example The Pot Roast Principle.
Deconstruction
In my 30’s I started to deconstruct it all, I didn’t really know that was what I was doing, but I did know my life wasn’t what I wanted so I started getting rid of any all beliefs. It has been an evolution, slow, sometimes painful, you feel alone, yet extremely freeing.
The first thing to go was this 8-5 work until I am 65 idea, that was for the birds. Then Christianity and the modern church got pitched out of the window, the glass was sharp and broken on that one. Then the idea of marriage, reputation (the care of other’s opinions of one), giving birth, etc. Today I am sifting through societal norms for physical appearance. Why do we as women spend so much time getting rid of hair on our body?
I look at my dog who is very hairy and love his hair. So why do we hate our own? I have spent 25 years removing hair from over 3/4ths of my body. When I started researching why women shave their arm-pits this is what I found from Wikipedia “Underarm hair in these ads was called “objectionable”, “unwelcome”, “embarrassing”, “unsightly” and “unclean”; and its removal indicated a person who had “charm” and “the last touch of ‘feminine loveliness'” and was “modest”, “dainty and perfectly groomed”; the practice was for “refined women” and “women of fashion.”[1]
So that is NOT me! I am not modest, nor dainty and to hell with being perfectly groomed. Who has time for that? Not us ladies that are out slaying it building our empires. I have work to do, people to help and mission to end needless suffering. So I quit shaving my armpits, my arms, the top half of my legs. I decided I would only shave or pluck because I wanted to and it made ME happy. Also, it is a daily reminder for me to question all my beliefs. To finally get rid of the ones that don’t serve me.
Creating new beliefs that serve us
To be able to deconstruct I had to be willing to let go and open up to something else. To be brave and risk rejection, loss of friendships, disapproval from the ones I love. I was so miserable I didn’t care though, it was my life and everyone outside of me wasn’t able to love me enough that when I woke up in the morning I woke up with peace and not anxiety, dread, and heaviness. So I opened up bravely to a new world of ideas, theories, perspectives.
We get so tied up into the beliefs of the generation that society, schools, and religions teach us it is hard to let go and even consider something different. I totally get that, but I have also learned A LOT of our beliefs do not serve us.
A new science
Historically we have believed in Newtonian Science where everything is made out of matter. Remember our science models with a Nucleus, Proton, and Electrons? We believed they were made out of matter. Later on Quantum Physics early 1900s came about and found that actually atom’s and sub-atomic particles are 99.9999999% empty space. So what we physically see is really just 00.0000008% matter. The vast majority of our planet/universe is empty space or energy.
Energy is potential, so there is so much potential and infinite possibilities in this world. We once believed that everything is set in a certain motion and abides by a strict set of rules. Now Quantum Physics has dispelled that and we can see that maybe things aren’t so rigid and set into this strict linear direction. Maybe there is infinite possibilities!
Where we focus is what we create
The Observer Effect in Quantum Physics, in a basic way of describing it, is where you focus your attention (the energy is focused in a certain direction) an electron will appear and then materialize into matter. That is where manifestation comes in. We focus our attention on something, feeling the emotions (bodily vibrations, caused by chemicals triggered in the brain from thoughts) and think the thoughts about whatever it is and become energetically aligned with that thing. In regards to energy, like attracts like.
Therefore, if you are thinking/believing negative (low vibration) things negative energy is emitted into the Quantum Field and the negative energy in the quantum field responds and returns to you. You know like those “bad days” spill your coffee, lose your keys, the tire is low on air, boss says something snarky to you, etc. We are creating our realities daily with our thoughts that then create emotions that send vibrations out into the world/universe calling in the same vibrational match.
That is why I talk daily about, change your thoughts, change your life! Deconstructing beliefs is a long, rough road, but it is so worth it! I am excited for the rest of my life, I am empowered, I know this life is about an epic adventure and co-creating something big, bold, glamorous, something that will blow my own mind. My life will truly be an example of what is possible when I am willing to let go, with fear and bravery head into the unknown.
Challenge your beliefs, examine your thoughts, be curious about your emotions and the thoughts that create them. The results in your life right now have a direct correlation to your daily thoughts and programmed belief system. IF the results aren’t what you want you have the beautiful opportunity to change them.